Whether or not one partner is neurotypical and the other has ADHD or both partners have ADHD, you have a relationship with 2 people whose brains work differently. This can set up a common dynamic that creates a vicious cycle of communication that leads to feelings of resentment, anxiety, frustration, and shame. This cycle can lead to ADHD spouse burnout.

A common dynamic that results from the vicious cycle of communication is called the parent-child dynamic, which is another way of saying a poor boundary dynamic.